Setting boundaries is easy. Holding them? That's where the real work begins. And it's the staying—in the new space, in the discomfort, in the boundary you've set—that changes everything. In this solo episode, Albiona returns from her holiday break with fresh clarity on what it means to truly hold space for ourselves and our kids. She shares why she doesn't set New Year's resolutions, what she learned from author Ozan Varol about letting go versus staying, and how the hardest part of parenting isn't setting boundaries—it's holding them when your child (or your own nervous system) pushes back.
Inside, Albiona explores:
→ Why "letting go isn't the hard part—it's staying" applies to both life changes and daily parenting moments
→ The four reaction types parents default to when boundaries get tested: punisher, adjuster, panicker, and avoider
→ Why we desperately seek agreement when we set boundaries (and why we don't actually need it)
→ How to stop over-explaining to your kids—and to yourself
→ What it looks like to parent yourself back home while parenting your children forward
→ Why discomfort doesn't mean unsafe, and how to ground yourself when everything feels shaky
She also gets honest about her own journey away from perfectionism and achievement, the spaciousness she's choosing in 2026, and why slowing down has become one of her most important practices.
This episode is for you if you've ever set a boundary and then immediately wanted to take it back. If you've felt the pull to adjust, explain, or rescue your child (or yourself) from discomfort. If you know what you need to do but struggle to stay there when things get hard.
Resources & Links:
→ Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching
→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe
→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com
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We're all learning how to stay—in our power, in our knowing, in the slowness—even when it feels uncomfortable.
Until next time,
The Parenting Reframe Team 🤎